Monthly Archive for: ‘June, 2017’

Making the Most of a Bad Situation

Life will always have contrast to it. Day, night. Joy, grief. Beginner, expert. Hot, cold.
Some days we feel like we’re “in the groove” – everything is falling into place and going well. And some days — well — just the opposite.
 
When someone comes to you and says, “this isn’t working, things are bad,” what do you do?
 
From Don’t say ‘it’s not that bad’ to someone who thinks it’s bad:
Say, “you know, you’re right.” And then ask,

  • What’s bad about it? Or, what makes you say that?
  • What decisions/behaviors are making it bad?
  • If it was good, what would it look like?
  •  
    Treat people who think things are bad like intelligent competent team members (because hopefully they are!)

  • Don’t contradict their assessments.
  • Ask for suggestions.
  • Expect them to make things better (share responsibility if it’s warranted).
  • Use “you” and “we” in the steps forward.
  • Avocado & Strawberry Salsa

    Serves 8

    1lg fresh avocado, diced

    1c strawberries, diced

    1lg navel oranges. diced

    1/2c grape halves

    1/4c red onion, finely diced

    ½t+ jalapeno pepper, seeded, finely diced

    1½T fresh lime juice

    1½T olive oil

    3T fresh cilantro, chopped

    taste s&p

     

    1. Combine all ingredients, stir in avocado last, chill

    Great accompaniment to fish, chicken & pork dishes!